Last week I met a new play partner, and during our first meeting we exchanged stories.
She told me she had to leave her previous Master because of an Alzheimer’s issue — he was beginning to show signs of confusion that led to forgetting her safeword. A sad story for sure. But at least nothing bad happened.
It made me think: will you realize when you have gotten too old for some of the things we do? Some activities require physical ability, and others require a sharp mind.
Being a bottom for suspension is an example — it puts a lot of stress on the body, and younger people heal and regenerate faster.
For me, doing whips, I can feel my joints and muscles telling me this activity puts more and more stress on them. I injured myself a few months ago giving a spanking. I was a good spanker — a heavy one, I will say — but now I need to go slower and use tools like paddles.
Also, even if older players remain in the scene, the pool of people skews younger. A 10-year age difference is not that bad; 20 is borderline; a 30-year difference starts to show some issues for some people.
